During childhood, we used to hear out many stories related to what our future love should be. We used to imagine how our soulmate should look like (for girls, tall and handsome etc. and for boys, sweet and good looking doll), s/he should do this and that for me, maybe getting the star or moon, or should be like a fairy or a king, and many other beautiful things that can be imagined. It’s so beautiful to rethink all of the set parameters or checks we had since childhood.
As we grow up, we shift to different set of checks and try to modify our type of love with the ‘type of soulmate’ we want. We get more clarity that we shouldn’t depend on physical characteristics of a person whether s/he is tall or short, fat or slim, we shouldn’t see the colour trait of a person, we shouldn’t go with a biased opinion of a ‘yes’ to a complete person with all checks as described above and many other things. In a nutshell, we get more clear on our thoughts and more clear of what we want from the other person. In between all of these, if we don’t get our ‘set parameter’ checked person for the time being, and get only a person who actually loves you but doesn’t fall in your checklist of ‘tall/handsome, sweet doll/cute , a king/queen etc.’, we shouldn’t break his or her 💓, we shouldn’t play with his/her emotions, we shouldn’t make false promises, we shouldn’t cheat/betray on him/her. By, just being selfish and getting away from the person who gave his/her heart to you just by giving reasons which can’t be relished (because, now you have someone else close to your checklist) and doesn’t make you a ‘good’ person with a ‘good’ soul. It directly means, tomorrow, if you see another one more close to your checklist, you’ll again switch. Do you think you can be called as ‘person’ even? Maybe, No. So what do you seek? Maybe a programmable machine who behaves the way you want, as you have no love/emotions/respect for the other person. It’s good to be alone sometimes rather than being with a fake person. Everyone has a heart and a beautiful soul, we should respect that!
We should always clear it out what we want from the person who is in our life until it’s very late (as the other person already built up high emotions and love for you). In my opinion and thoughts, we should always see the soul of a person, the love, his/her behaviour towards you and others, who has emotions filled as that would lead to emotional learning between two of us, more respect, kindness and truthfulness and other things comes secondary. Period. This would not only get you a person who actually loves you with all his/her soul but would also teach you several beautiful dimensions of life and its beauty which would be led by both.
Today was my first day at “Apna school – PS Manjud, Chamba, T.G” (My school as we call it i.e. The Primary School, PS) and as usual the experience was very good. Today was something different, as past two days I was asked by the Head Teacher of PS Manjud, Chamba to teach children, but today I sat down with a copy and pen just to learn how the teachers are teaching and learn the basic environment of children and their mind-set towards mine.
I somehow observed the playful environment of children and tried to understand their basic psychology towards everything.
Basic psychology of children
Understanding the basic psychology is very difficult while I got
nearly 10% of it and will learn the rest while I progress more on the school
visits. It’s quite interesting at the same time to understand what a child goes
through of what s/he sees.
For instance, some children were looking at me when I was penning
down the activities and some were hanging on my hands as a playful activity.
So, it’s quite interesting as in: some children were happy, some were a bit
serious seeing me and my observation as since two days I was playing with them,
so it was a bit strange – for them!
Session with the children: A poem recitation
Post lunch, I sat with the children and asked them to recite any
poem or any story whatever they liked. Kaajal
– a 4th standard student told “hare and the tortoise”. Everyone
supported with some actions in telling the story and we also enjoyed a lot.
I too recalled a poem “Johny
Johny” and recited it with some of the actions – as far as, I could act.
They knew what actions should follow the poem so I was interrupted in between
by saying – “Nikhil Sir, you are doing the action wrong i.e. for eating sugar,
you should bring a sugar plate” that was a quick laugh as I could recall and I
laughed till the end.
I also recalled “Machli jal ki rani hai” (Fish: The queen of water) and somehow succeeded in remembering the latter lines of the poem and did the actions without any problem. The children laughed a little but later they also formed a group next to me and said Sir once again and one another poem. So, what I did next was took their book and recited another story and thought to be a storyteller for some time with actions and drama – a little bit for all I could act.
It was actually a fun seeing all the children enjoying with me and
sitting next to me like a panchayat in a village. It felt very good. For some
time, I thought am I reciting/telling anything wrong? But no, I wasn’t correct!
I was telling them the stories with that eager that something might happen
next, so that was the zeal amongst all the children.
The teachers also witnessed how the children got engaged and encircled me like a parent. They told me – that’s a good idea to be with the children and getting them engaged.
As soon as the alarm bell rang at around 4.30 am – I got a quick shiver that I had to rush to school with my colleague. I did all my morning stuffs and got ready and it was already 5.10 am in the morning.
I had a feeling that I could be a bit late. But, I
had the positive hope that I will reach on time – but had a fear that “whether
I could get any bus to Tehri from Chamba or not?” – this morning.
Yes, it was my fear which turned into reality. I left my place around 5.50 am in the morning and waited for a cab/bus anything which could drive me to the destination place. I saw some sumo’s in the queue but No, they weren’t waiting for me! They were waiting for other passengers to fill in and they would then start. What a good experience that was!
I sat in a sumo and it was nearly filled but who knew that the driver says – “bhaiya aap kisi aur sumo mein beth jao, yahan book ha sawari court ki!! “ ( Brother, you please sit in some other cab, we are already full for some other destination)
I was all irritated. Now I sat in the bus – a direct bus to Baurari (a quiet place near Tehri). There were only 3 passengers in the bus excluding me and I was assured that the bus would leave on time, i.e. after some minutes – but that was a good lie. It took some 30 minutes to fill up and then the bus would leave for Baurari. What a travel it was!
I met my fellow colleagues in Baurari and we all left for Tipri Village in some other bus. The bus journey to Tipri Village was a bit tiring as I wasn’t able to fit my legs in the back seat due to non-availability of seats – a heavily crowded bus.
We reached Tipri Gaon in near about 30 minutes and now we had a one kilometer walk to reach our school. We reached The Primary School. Like I said earlier, this school also greeted us with open hands and the teachers here were again welcoming.
Interaction with children:
Children’s here were very active. They greeted us with the window saying Good Morning Sir! They were happy to see us but at the same time they were in the dilemma that what would they teach? Or what What would they do with us? – As I could figure that out.
I began interacting with them and also asked their
names they were only few in number i.e. 8.
I started with names and also asked what is the difference between sugar and namkeen (salty snacks)?! I literally heard many differences. They said sugar is sweet and namkeen (salty snacks) is salty. But again my question was why sweet is not salty and why salt is not sweet? They said because sweet is only sweet and salt is only salt – which is a concluded answer out of no clue. One child replied by saying sweets are only in sweet shop and namkeen’s are only in Haldirams (a famous shop for Salty Snacks). So, that was an another answer to the question asked by them.