What do you seek?

During childhood, we used to hear out many stories related to what our future love should be. We used to imagine how our soulmate should look like (for girls, tall and handsome etc. and for boys, sweet and good looking doll), s/he should do this and that for me, maybe getting the star or moon, or should be like a fairy or a king, and many other beautiful things that can be imagined. It’s so beautiful to rethink all of the set parameters or checks we had since childhood.

As we grow up, we shift to different set of checks and try to modify our type of love with the ‘type of soulmate’ we want. We get more clarity that we shouldn’t depend on physical characteristics of a person whether s/he is tall or short, fat or slim, we shouldn’t see the colour trait of a person, we shouldn’t go with a biased opinion of a ‘yes’ to a complete person with all checks as described above and many other things. In a nutshell, we get more clear on our thoughts and more clear of what we want from the other person. In between all of these, if we don’t get our ‘set parameter’ checked person for the time being, and get only a person who actually loves you but doesn’t fall in your checklist of ‘tall/handsome, sweet doll/cute , a king/queen etc.’, we shouldn’t break his or her πŸ’“, we shouldn’t play with his/her emotions, we shouldn’t make false promises, we shouldn’t cheat/betray on him/her. By, just being selfish and getting away from the person who gave his/her heart to you just by giving reasons which can’t be relished (because, now you have someone else close to your checklist) and doesn’t make you a ‘good’ person with a ‘good’ soul. It directly means, tomorrow, if you see another one more close to your checklist, you’ll again switch. Do you think you can be called as ‘person’ even? Maybe, No. So what do you seek? Maybe a programmable machine who behaves the way you want, as you have no love/emotions/respect for the other person. It’s good to be alone sometimes rather than being with a fake person. Everyone has a heart and a beautiful soul, we should respect that!

We should always clear it out what we want from the person who is in our life until it’s very late (as the other person already built up high emotions and love for you). In my opinion and thoughts, we should always see the soul of a person, the love, his/her behaviour towards you and others, who has emotions filled as that would lead to emotional learning between two of us, more respect, kindness and truthfulness and other things comes secondary. Period. This would not only get you a person who actually loves you with all his/her soul but would also teach you several beautiful dimensions of life and its beauty which would be led by both.

Copyright Β© Nikhil Kundu

15 thoughts on “What do you seek?

  1. Very thoughtful n deep aspect of love that is so true. The bitter truth of this era is that most ppl give credence to looks n financial status when looking for a relationship n then try to look for happiness in it. Strangely they don’t realise that fake emotions won’t bring in real feelings. But all is not lost… ppl who love from the heart are never the losers !

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    1. That’s very true. Now a days most of the people are running after worldly things a they don’t see emotions. I should say there is lack of emotional stability amongst them and then they just pretend emotions. There is a need of social and emotional learning amongst all of us.

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  2. Great advice. When I was growing up I wish I had a women role model to guide me through the right was to have a relationship. It took me years of having dyfuncational relationships and one abusive marriage. I have finally learned. πŸ’–

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    1. Thanks for your lovely comment here. Yes, we learn a lot from our relationships, life. But, there is always a positive hope who never does wrong. Believe in it. πŸ™‚

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